Are you battling with a serious disease that is slowly taking away your strength? Struggling with the loss of a loved one?
Are you struggling with hardship that you feel you are no longer with your real self - like you lost in touch with your real self? or, maybe Coping with depression?
What if you know that your chance of surviving a situation is 0.5, will you still make any attempt / effort to survive or improve the situation? or You will just give up?
Wait until you hear the good news...
, these frogs were best friends. One was Fat and the other was Thin.
said to the other:
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How to Overcome Any Obstacle in Life: 3 Ultimate Steps!
It’s not enough to set goals; you need to actualize your goals. It is at the point of execution that life becomes unbearable as unexpected setbacks and obstacles set in.
It is not an understatement to say that every success comes with challenges. Those challenges often come as problems you need to solve. If you can solve them, you can then have the assurance that you can reach your goals.
Below are the 3 ultimate steps to overcome any obstacle in your life:
1. Have a reason to live.
2. Be self-aware; and,
3. Have a persistent spirit.
Now, let's break it down...
1. Have a Reason to Live
Like the Fat frog 🐸 we just mentioned in the illustration above, we may not survive an emotional crisis or any difficult challenge in life without a strong reason to live. Depression and other kinds of emotional distress can knock you down and keep you flat.
When crawling through the fog of hopelessness and despair, it’s often tough to visualize what’s ahead.
People in pain — physical, emotional or financially — generally want to do whatever they can to stop that pain. If you can’t see any clear path to improving your situation, suicide might seem like the only method of relief (just like the Fat frog who gave up after paddling for some hours)
First, know there’s no shame in suicidal thoughts. It’s normal to want to stop hurting. It’s also common to feel irritable — even resentful — when people with good intentions try to tell you why suicide isn’t the answer.
When you’ve reached your limit, it doesn’t mean much to hear:
* “You have so much to live for.”
* “So many people care about you.”
* “Tomorrow’s a new day.”
As someone who has experienced both mental health crises and suicidal thoughts, I know firsthand how empty and meaningless these words can seem.
My own experiences guided me to a career in self-development and inspired me to create materials (illustrative books, and videos) in order to encourage those seeking to discover what they are here for.
I’ve been where you are now. I know how it feels. And I know how much it matters to hear from someone who really does get it.
Just a few years ago, I thought about suicide often. I didn’t have a concrete plan, but the idea was always simmering on the back burner. It took time, effort, and therapy, but eventually those thoughts quieted. Eventually, they disappeared entirely. I believe they will for you, too...
Here are 5 suggestions that can help you succeed:
i) Open-up and Share your feelings.
ii) Look beyond the obstacle.
iii) Believe that.. you will get over this.
iv) Give it time.
v) Mistakes don’t have to define you.
i) Open-up and Share your feelings:
You’re not as alone as you feel. It may seem like everyone has their own preoccupations keeping them busy. In reality, people often just don’t know what’s going on in your head.
But if they did, chances are they’d be more than happy to lend a listening ear or help you find the support you need.
If talking to people you know feels too difficult, you can still talk to someone who cares and wants to help.
ii) Look beyond the obstacle:
It’s hard to see solutions when in distress because when you’re in the middle of a crisis, that’s usually the only thing you can see.
You might feel pretty bleak right now, but note those key words:“right now.”
This is a prime example of tunnel vision — or the tendency to only see one possible outcome in a given situation. The problem with tunnel vision is that it lies.
Whether you’re lonely, facing abuse, struggling with illness, about to become jobless or homeless, or anything else, remember, no situation is impossible. There may be solutions you just can’t see yet, and that’s why it’s so important to give yourself some time, while you look beyond the obstacle.
Once you get out of crisis mode (easier said than done, I know), possibilities you haven’t considered may present themselves.
iii) Believe that.. you will get over this:
Nothing in life is final — until it’s over. In a crisis, you might feel trapped because you don’t see any way out. You might think you’ve blown your chance to have the life you wanted or permanently lost a friendship that really mattered to you.
When your emotions threaten to overwhelm you, get some distance by focusing on the facts instead.
Here are two important ones to start with:
a. Emotions aren’t permanent:-No matter how isolated, hopeless, angry, or lost you feel right now, you won’t always feel that way. Emotions come and go, and you can learn how to better manage them.
b. Situations can change:-Maybe you messed up or made the wrong choice. But continuing your life gives you the power to take back control over the circumstances and improve them.
The key thing to remember is this: As long as you’re alive, you have the chance to make changes, learn from the past, and grow as a person—which leads us to the fourth suggestion...
iv) Give it time:
Time does help lessen pain. Time is a healer... But how?
Time doesn’t erase your experiences or change events. For example; If you’ve lost a loved one or experienced trauma, you’ll continue to carry that grief.
My lowest point came after the loss of my dear Mom. She battled with a stroke for six years until her body finally gave up. Because I loved her so much, I was so distressed, I couldn’t envision any future happiness for myself.
Though, I’ve since moved on and developed other fulfilling, healthy relationships, but I still carry that reminder of pain and loss. The difference lies in how I’ve learned to manage those feelings.
Time can heal or help you lessen the pain—if you let it.
Things really will improve, though you’ll probably have to work at it. Your future may look a little different from what you envisioned, since not all damage can be repaired.
But even when you can’t repair the damage, your experiences can still lead you to a rewarding future. The only catch? You have to give life a chance to surprise you.
v) Mistakes don’t have to define you:
It’s common to lash out when you’re struggling, to do or say things you don’t mean. The pain you cause can make you believe the people you hurt are better off without you, which can intensify the current issue.
But consider this: They wouldn’t feel hurt if they didn’t care... Let this be proof that they care, and let it give you strength to apologize, make amends, or work on repairing the friendship.
Maybe you’re feeling so miserable because you made a huge mistake you know you can’t repair. You might see yourself as a terrible person. This remorse you feel, however, suggests the opposite: “Bad” people typically don’t care when they hurt others.
Everyone messes up sometimes, and feeling bad about your mistakes shows you want to do better.
Giving yourself the chance to repair your mistakes allows you to prove you can, in fact, do better even if you’re just proving that to yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the first one you’ll want to mend, after all.
2. Be Self-Aware
If you don't see the obstacle or believe it's a hindrance, you'll never reach your goals, blaming everything and everyone but the person responsible.
This is particularly obstructive to resolving Habitual Obstacles. I realized my own prioritization was keeping me from what I needed to do.
I could easily blame time as my enemy, but the enemy was actually my semi-conscious, daily rationalization that making money was almost always more important than health or learning. Once I admitted that my own prioritization was misguided, I made the necessary adjustments in my behavior.
Self-awareness can be the most challenging of the various survival skills to develop, but it can also serve as a foundation for strengthening all your other life skills.
Your effectiveness in leading a successful life can be amplified based on how well you understand yourself, your awareness of how others view you, and how you navigate the resulting interactions.
For example:
i) Self-awareness allows us to see things from the perspective of others, practice self-control, work creatively and productively, and experience pride in ourselves and our work as well as general self-esteem.
ii) It can make us more proactive, boost our acceptance, and encourage positive self-development, which often leads to better decision-making.
iii) It can make us better at our jobs, better communicators in the workplace, and enhance our self-confidence and job-related wellbeing.
These are few of the many benefits to practicing self-awareness.
Self-awareness has the potential to enhance virtually every experience you have, as it’s a tool and a practice that can be used anywhere, anytime, to ground yourself in the moment, realistically evaluate yourself and the situation, and help you make good choices whenever you are faced with any obstacle in your life.
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Real life examples of self-awareness at work
Juliet on her own...
Juliet struggles with low self-esteem, which causes depressive symptoms. She doesn’t feel good enough, and she doesn’t accept opportunities that come her way because of it. She begins working with a therapist to help her build self-awareness.
The next time an opportunity comes her way, Juliet thinks she doesn’t want to do it and initially decides to turn it down; but, with the help of some self-awareness techniques, Juliet realizes that she is only telling herself she doesn’t want to do it because of her fear that she won’t be good enough.
Mercy at home...
Mercy is having relationship problems with her boyfriend, John. She thinks John takes her for granted and he doesn’t tell her he loves her or share affection enough. They fight about this frequently.
Suddenly, Mercy realizes that she may be contributing to the problem. She looks inward and sees that she doesn’t show John appreciation very often and that she overlooks the nice things he does around the house for her and little physical touches that show his affection.
Mercy considers her thought processes when John misses an opportunity to make her feel loved and notes that she assumes he purposely avoids doing things that she likes.
These two stories exemplify what self-awareness can look like, and what it can do for you when you tap into it. Without self-awareness, Juliet would never have taken the opportunity that helped her grow, and Mercy would have continued in an unsatisfying relationship or broken things off.
3. Have a Persistent Spirit
It is good to hope and dream, but... hopes and dreams alone aren't enough to help you surmount obstacles or challenges in life; instead, hard work and dedication are the way to achieve success.
Persistence is a key ingredient to success; it is a talent multiplier.
Without persistence, it doesn't matter how talented you are, because your full potential will never be achieved.
What is persistence?
Persistence is the courage to continue pursuing your dream in spite of unexpected setbacks, obstacles, undeserved criticism, and unrelenting hard work.
It's not easy to continue when things are going badly, and there is no guarantee that your efforts will end in success. But what is guaranteed is that if you quit, then you will never reach your goal.
There is one big difference between those who are successful in life and those who aren't: having the persistence to perservere no matter how hard it is.
Calvin Coolidge puts it this way;
"Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not. Nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not. Unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not. The world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent."
And according to Winston S. Churchill, "Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."
"You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it."
-- Maya Angelou
"You never know what's around the corner. It could be everything. Or it could be nothing. You keep putting one foot in front of the other, and then one day you look back and you've climbed a mountain."
-- Tom Hiddleston
"The three great essentials to achieve anything worthwhile are, first, hard work; second, stick-to-itiveness; third, common sense."
-- Thomas A. Edison
Conclusion
No matter how hard the situation, no matter how slim the view of breakthrough is; Never give up.
Be optimistic almost about everything; it opens the way to breakthrough and success.
Beware when people, even those whom you don't expect, ask you to lose hope, or to give up... the way they perceive things is different from yours.
* Your race is different.
* Your path is different.
* Your fight is different.
Keep paddling...
The world is waiting till you jump out.
What ever illness or decease that is resling with you now, don't worry - you will get over it.
Are you struggling with depression? don't worry - you will get over it.
Do you have financial issues? don't worry - you will get over it.
Do you have regrets due to a poor choice from the past? don't worry - you will get over it.
Any worry about the future? stop it, live life one day at a time and be happy; you will also get over it!.
I hope the frogs' story rekindled your motivation to succeed.
Never give up now. Keep fighting! Help is on the way.
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